Adoption is often referred to as a rollercoaster ride. The adoption process is filled with a continual barrage of high and low emotions. When you’re trying to process all these emotions on a day-to-day basis it can build to a fever pitch. Writing about it helps to process the constant ebb and flow of the process. It helps me to process what I’m feeling and what may or may not be happening in the actual situation. Saying it “out loud” helps to release the anxiety, fear and even the anticipation, that can sometimes feel overwhelming and oppressive. Often after writing a blog entry, an article or even an email, I feel instant ease of tension and anxiety. As a natural planner, I always have a little anxiety in the process.
Through writing, I have made a connection with so many people who are on the journey, considering the journey and done with the journey. It has helped me find people who I can help, who have helped me in immeasurable ways, and spreading knowledge, resources, and information is imperative in this process. Whether it be people in my neighborhood, or across the country, we have shared highs, lows, and resources. Books, webinars, even support groups via social media have been a lifesaver for me.
Being understood is important in life. Being understood in the journey we are on is imperative. There are days when all I have left at the end of the day is humor. I can find humor in the most disturbing things sometimes. Having someone I know that completely understands where I am, that it is relief. When I’m discouraged, I have support in knowing how to help me, what my child really needs, what the behaviors really mean. It’s a relief and a ginormous blessing to know that I’m not alone, that someone else gets it. Adoption, especially of children of trauma, can be a very lonely road. I am so lucky to have so many in my life who are ready at a moment’s notice to support, hug, and sometimes just hear me. No judgment. No frilly sentiments. Just understanding.